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B'nai Mitzvah

Mazal Tov on your child becoming B'nai Mitzvah! 

This is an incredibly special time in the life of your family and we are honored to celebrate with you.  In these unusual circumstances, Congregation B'nai Shalom is proud to provide personal support and care for every family in crafting a meaningful Bar or Bat Mitzvah experience.

Current Options for Becoming B’nai Mitzvah

Sanctuary Service with Clergy Present

We are currently holding Shabbat morning services in our sanctuary to celebrate Bar and Bat mitzvah, with up to 50 guests of the family present. The Rabbi and Soloist are present in the sanctuary with the family.

We will also set up a Zoom room for non-local participants, who will be seen on a large screen in our sanctuary. The service also goes out on our live stream where our congregation and other students can watch.

To experience what a Sanctuary B'nai Mitzvah is like, click the photo below!

Frequently Asked Questions

How does Zoom and streaming work?

Congregation B'nai Shalom provides you with a Zoom link for your service. This link can be shared with all of your guests (capacity is for up to 300 screens). 

How does my extended family participate in the Zoom?

Service participants (who are not in-person) will log into the private Zoom call with a link provided by Congregation B'nai Shalom. We have compiled some best practices and tips for Zoom participants on our page Bar and Bat Mitzvah - A Guide for Guests on Zoom. We provide opportunities for all on Zoom to actively contribute to the service through special moments of interaction during the service.

How will our friends and family attend the service?

Whether in person, by Zoom or livestream, we provide guidance on how everyone can be an active congregant at the service. Everyone contributes to the energy of the experience by praying together, wherever they are. The live stream recording is also available for viewing and sharing following the ceremony.

Can we take photographs before the service?

Yes. For detailed information about photography in the sanctuary, please consult the B'nai Mitzvah Handbook and the FAQ document found at the bottom of this page.

Do I need to hire a videographer?

No. We provide all of the Tech equipment and support that you need to ensure a high quality digital experience.

Will there be a rehearsal?

Yes! Our schedule of rehearsals with Sharon Brown Goldstein, Lisa Marcus Jones, and Rabbi Gurevitz remains unchanged. The final rehearsal on the Wednesday afternoon before the Shabbat now takes place in person in our sanctuary.

How does our child read from Torah?

Yes! Students are currently receiving photographic images of their portion from the scroll they will be using so that they can practice from it in the weeks leading up to their service. They have the opportunity to chant directly from the scroll at the final rehearsal.

Is my child's service going to feel less special?

Our Shabbat morning service remains a meaningful occasion for our students to demonstrate their learning of Jewish ritual and for us to bless them on the next step of their journey. We have found that families have brought additional ideas into our service rituals because it provided a space for creativity, and the services have become more meaningful as a result.

Are there changes to tutoring schedule?


Can I change my date?

At this time we are not changing the dates of services. We determined that this was the necessary course of action for several reasons: a) We do not know when to reschedule to!  We all hope that we will be through this pandemic soon. Even with all adults now having access to schedule vaccinations, it may not be until 2022 that children are vaccinated.  b) There is something special about becoming bar or bat mitzvah on or close to one's 13th birthday. We have found that families who postponed have had a more challenging time maintaining their child's anticipation of this special moment of transition into the teen years, along with difficulty maintaining the high level of ongoing practice for an extended number of months. We encourage families who have contracts with celebration venues to work with those venues to postpone a party to a future and different date from the service. c) As a congregation with limited clergy and a very large number of families who celebrate with us every year, we do not have the capacity to lead all of the additional services on top of those already scheduled in 2021 and 2022 that would result with continuous rescheduling. Ongoing delays and rescheduling would leave us with no ability to provide a bar or bat mitzvah service leading opportunity for those who had delayed.  As a congregation we have prioritized safety, equity and access as our guiding values. We cannot do for one family what we are unable to offer to all.

B'nai Mitzvah Audio

Friday Night Kiddush (Part 1)

Friday Night Kiddush (Part 2)

Torah Blessing 1

Torah Blessing 2

Haftarah Blessing

Blessing After Haftarah (1)

Blessing After Haftarah (2)

Blessing After Haftarah (3)

Chatzi Kaddish


Ma'ariv Aravim (Evening)

Yotzeir Or (Morning)

Ahava Rabah (Morning)



Avot V'Imahot


Kedusha (Evening)

Don't Take Our Word - Here Are Some Quotes From Parents and Attendees

"Thanks for including me in your Bat Mitzvah. It was such a wonderful service with the perfect balance of gravity and humor, teaching and learning, leading and sharing. I loved that it started with gratitude and the readings really spoke to me, even as a non-Jewish, non-religious person. I appreciated and was moved by them all. So fitting for today, and I guess for all times." 

"Yesterday was really terrific.  Although we attend our weekly Zoom service and lots of Zoom meetings I wasn't quite sure how this was going to work. It was an amazingly smooth, coordinated service and Lilly truly rocks"

"You, Joe, Lisa and Sharon have always led beautiful, spiritual services. But with the current state of affairs, being able to merge that with the ability to utilize technology to provide a smooth, coordinated service emphasizes how lucky our congregation is to have the four of you as our clergy."

From a Parent: "I just wanted to thank you, not only for today,  but for all that you have done leading up to this day.   It’s been quite the journey for all the families who had postponements and you really made certain that it was a special day despite the circumstances.   We really appreciate all that you did for us."

Thu, December 2 2021 28 Kislev 5782